Reporters don’t ususlly leave out important FACTS. Yes the boy is equally guilty. Yes the parents are equally guilty. Yes—14 is old enough to make informed decisions. Yes, I am a parent. My son is 30 years old, home owner, home renter, business minded. He made plenty of informed decisions at 14 and he had a job at 15. He did not grow up in front of a TV, nintendo, x-box, wii. Maybe we should blame the tv.

…and, Larry, you consider your parenting skills to be on par with this girl’s parents? or do you think you might have a better handle on it? No, a 14 year old with a father who jumps at the chance to blame everyone but himself for her errors (or acknowledging that she may have been willingly involved in a sexual relationship with a boy) is NOT capable of making rational, adult decisions, which is why we don’t let them drive, or live on their own one world. Think, Larry. Who do you think you are?

*”on their own in the world”…

where in the article did it say a boy taped it???, or do you assume everything. It was actually her female friend that taped it. People like you make me sick with your assumptions.

Um, why are you considering it the girl as the rape victim and not the boy? More males than females are raped in the country every year.

it seems clear that the person in control in this situation was the girl.

I agree. Not using the word “rape” is most likely just responsible reporting since the police have not completed their investigations. These reports have simply identified the facts of the incident and have avoided labeling any of the activities as criminal, which clearly is not the case, as it seems several crimes were likely committed.

@Sumday: Agreed wholeheartedly.

You can legally tape anyone without their knowledge or consent. Look at Google maps… they have your home, which might have your car, which might even have you. Many other countries do consider this a crime. US does not. I could stand outside your house, on a public street, and video what I want, to be honest.

Riptide: You can tape in public where there is no expectation of privacy. Not on private property or in a private residence without consent. The expectation of privacy is there. Google street view is different- they photograph street-level, in the open public.

It is considered “child porno” because of a creep in scope of the laws, not because it is actually child pornography. Child pornography is defined (except by poorly worded laws) as the capture of sex with prepubescent children for the purpose of making a profit. None of these children were prepubescent (indeed they would not have been considered ‘children’ 50 years ago) AND the filming was done for profit.

I mean, of course, NOT done for profit

The difference is she did this act in a public place not in the privacy of her home!! Big difference!

I think the issue with your statement is that no you couldnt gain access to my home to tape me having sex but a child performing oral sex on a classmate OUTSIDE of school has no expectation of privacy. I saw a still picture in another article that spoke about this story and there is a young man sitting right next to the two engaged in the act. This child was in public and had an audience of at least two (the young man next to them and the person taping the act).

This whole situation is sad and I do agree that those who shared this video should be charged with distributing child porn.

I ‘m wrong. In Maryland the perp would have to be four yrs older than the victim for it to be a crime.

its not rape if the guy was also a minor or close enough to her age.

You are correct.

Also, the age difference can be greater if they are married. This is most common among recent emigrants (the daughter is already married at age 12 upon arrival to the USA) but marriage at 13 and 14 was not that unusual in our own country until the 1950s. Basically, the cultural rule is that there is pressure to marry out the daughters once they are done with school. A sixth grade education was the norm in the early 1900s .. the age of consent (and marriage) rose along with the age of expected graduation from public school. Marriage at age 24 or later was not the norm until everyone started going to college – and that is the reason the Western countries have higher marriage ages (and overall fewer children) than in the rest of the world.

Age of consent in MD is 16,

http://www.avert.org/age-of-consent.htm

Sorry, There is no crime committed here. Statutory rape would involve an individual 4 years older than the girl. All of these kids were 14 years old and consenting. There is no crime committed posting the video because teenagers posted it. They (as far as we know) did not profit from the posting. The good old Patriot Act means anyone can tape you anywhere and post it online. (except your home)

wrong Larry, the distribution of media containing children engaged in sexual activity is felony distribution of chilld pornography….a crime.

Once again—you are a little behind the time. This has been going on between teenagers for a while now. The media has warned parents for years now. As far as I know NONE of the thousands of teenagers posting this have been arrested or even charged with anything. Have you seen ANY charges in this case? Read for yourself—–
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/01/15/national/main4723161.shtml

@Larry, are you an idiot? Google “sexting teen child porn” and sift through the hundreds of thousands of hits. This is something that absolutely is being aggressively pursued, but obviously the amount of cases being charged are only going to scratch the surface of how many potential cases there are. Anyone with even the slightest understanding the judicial system should appreciate how profoundly stupid your accusation is. Moreover, the Patriot Act doesn’t nullify child pornography charges in any way shape or form, you leftwing psycho! Did you forget that Obama signed an EXTENSION?! But hey, you want to know who IS trying to make the distribution of child pornography legal? The ACLU, an organization I’m sure you worship. Get your facts straight, hippie.

So Ashley (and whitie) .. are you saying that it should be illegal to be a normal teenager? Not only illegal, but branded with a scarlet letter of ‘child pornographer’ and ‘statutory rapist’. Wow. Get back to Holland on your Pilgrim boat. I don’t want you near my teenagers.

@whitie

So then if the male student is underage then she must have committed statutory rape,huh? Why is he held to a different standard than her? They are both underage so then they are equally wrong and should simply be kicked out of school for the year, it was sex not murder!

What an idiot!

WE WAS ALL A TEENAGER BEFORE. AND WE ALL KNOW IF WE GET CAUGHT DOING SOMETHING WRONG, HE OR SHE MAKE ME DO IT. YEAH HE KNOW THAT WHAT HIS CHILD DID WAS WRONG, AND SO ON. HELL FOR THAT MATTER THEY ALL WAS WRONG. YEAH OK SHE GOT BULLIE INTO DOING THIS. YEAH RIGHT. CHILDREN HAVE BEEN PUTTING THIS TYPE OF STUFF ON THE INTERNET FOR YEARS. AND THEY ARE NOT GOING TO STOP DOING IT. AND YES THEY DO STILL FIND A WAY TO HAVE WHATEVER KIND OF SEX THEY WANT TO HAVE. THE TEACHER AND SO ON BEFORE THEM ARE HAVING SEX WITH THE STUDENTS. WHATEVER EXCUSE SHE COULD COME UP WITH TO KEEP FROM GETTING INTO TROUBLE WITH SHE DID. SHE KNEW WHAT WAS GOING ON MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. SHE JUST DID NOT KNOW THAT SO MANY PEOPLES WOULD SEE IT. AND GET BACK TO HER FAMILY. I AM A MOTHER OF 3. 2 BOYS AND A GIRL. NOTHING SURPRISE ME ABOUT WHAT KIDS DO THESE DAYS. I KNOW WHAT I DID. AND NO WE AS PARENTS ARE NOT STUFF FOR WHAT OUR KIDS DO. WE ARE NOT WITH THEM 24/7. BELIEVE ME I DO WISH THIS ON NOBODY FAMILY. ALL I CAN SAY IS THINK BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING THAT MAY BRING HARM TO YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE. THIS CAN GET SOMEONE KILL OR HURT.

I also don’t mean to say that you believe in martyrdom but if you accept religion, or rather defend it, you must also accept both the good and the negative aspects of those beliefs.

Excellent. Let me first express my reasoning for the assumption that you are both male and younger than me: Your initial comment was a) agressive and indicative a male attack on a woman’s intellect and b) not worthy of one who has the experience of age, wisdom, if you will. I am in my 40′s…and, as A Mom, clearly female. So….am I right?

As for your perspective on religion, it is still based in western thought. I have been where you are. I have made those same arguments, but they all became meaningless and empty when I stopped thinking in terms of life and death and God as a punisher of sins and granter of material wishes. I do not believe in martyrdom because I do not believe that life in a material body has value other than to serve as a vessel to get me back to where I belong. It may not be in this body, this existence, it may be much much further down the line.

I do not believe that forcing people to say that they believe the way I do can ever be fruitful. It serves no purpose but to drive others to secretly hate you and your vision of creation. The people in my faith want to lead by example rather than by strong arming anyone. I firmly believe that if we don’t get it this time, maybe we will next time around.

I must also, respectfully, disagree with the notion that we are not religious all on our own. Aren’t we? Someone was. Even if you choose to believe that religion is just the imagination of one person that was passed down from parent to child. It started somewhere. Maybe God.

I think I answered your question about why I think it is important to plant the seed of doing good for others. It is better than the alternative. …and, oh yes, the idea that people can convince themselves of anything. Yes, they can. We are here, and yet you think our existence … our ability to have this philosophical discussion about our existence … in the universe is a fluke rather than something with a perfectly logical explanation. I believe that we are the miracle….this planet and everything in it is miraculous in the known universe. But that is not good enough for you?

…and, Yes, I have an ego, too. You don’t have to point it out, unless it makes you feel better.

Sorry, one more thing…. do you you really believe that it is wrong to offer your children philosophical ideas? Or are you saying that threatening your child with it is wrong…I’m not sure I followed your thought on that. I am not trying to be argumentative… just clarifying.

I apologize in advance for the length of this post but “Anti-Christ” you are so confused about things that I felt obligated to try to help you out…

1) “what ever your beliefs may be, what I say will not affect them and rightfully shouldn’t”

If there isn’t anything a person can say that can affect another person’s beliefs, it only shows the other person irrational, or that the person’s beliefs are necessarily true. But the idea that what you say, shouldn’t ever affect my beliefs is false, and I think you know that, because even having expressed this view, you continue to try to communicate your opinions to another person. Consider if I believed it was necessary to murder people in order to keep the sun shining, wouldn’t it be good of me to listen to you as you explained to me that the sun requires no such offering? And shouldn’t I after having been properly educated abandon my false idea, because to persist in that belief, even though he knew it to be false, would be wicked?

2)However to imply that religion is inherently good (even in the “local youth ministry”) is far from truth.

This is the kind of statement that requires justification, because it is easily seen from even a rudimentary understanding of Christian dogma that the idea that revealed religion is inherently good follows immediately from some of the fundamental principles of Christian theology… All of God’s actions are good. God by His action has revealed religion to humans. therefore revelation is good.

3) Sure, for some, religion can bring happiness which is often the case when life is bad, causing people to turn to religion.

This statement is meant to contain your attempt to recognize the possibility that religion is inherently good, that is that you can see the merit of the “other side’s” POV. But the evidence you put forward is awfully weak, and reveals that you do not understand the position of the “other side”. Religion often brings sadness to people, and so it would seem that if religion is good (which the Christian feels is must be given the nature of God). Therefore the goodness of religion is independent of human happiness. I would have thought you would have understood this because you qualified the christian perspective of goodness of religion as “inherent”, meaning contained in itself.

4) (people aren’t inherently religious, they learn it either because someone teaches them or because they sought it out themselves)

Again this claim requires justification. Christians believe that God has equipped humans with conscience and reason and that these, though not sufficient for faith (because they believe that faith is a gift from God), do ready the intellect for God’s supernatural work. For conscience is the law of God written on the human heart, and reason can know the truth of the proofs that a being like God must exist (cf. the thomistic proofs of God’s existence). Further, I think it would have been best to cite a scientific study here because this is an empirical claim. However, the only studies I know of suggest that children are prone to “magical thinking” and see everything that happens as the result of the action of some kind of agency.

5)”when that religion is forced onto others (say a parent onto a child) where there becomes a problem”
Parents ought to teach their children to believe certain things, like to do the right thing. When a parent honestly believes that it is good to follow God’s commandments and to believe in God, they are only being consistent, and this phenomenon only becomes a problem if God doesn’t exist, or if it is morally wrong to do what He says, and these are points that you have to argue…

6) I have no problem reaffirming the fact that since religion holds no truths, it can’t righteously have any meaning except what we assign it personally. And since its so subjective you can’t insist that a child/teen accept or maintain the beliefs of the parents.

Christianity makes truth claims: “God exists”, “Jesus rose from the dead”, ” Peter denied Christ three times before His death”, etc. These statements all have truth values independent of what people think about them. Moreover, it makes claims about moral truths: “you should do this, and not do that”. Do you deny the existence of moral truths? if so how can suggest that a person should or should not do something? This statement is completely false.

7)the fact that it can also be used as a proxy for terror and carries so much power in the minds of followers, it has and will always be the downfall of the rational being

Anything can be used for the purposes of terror, from “a well of water exists” or “I’ll give you a million dollars to blow that thing up”, but this doesn’t mean that things themselves are untrue and/or “wrong”.

8)What about the absence of the path not crossed/ life not lived? What about the martyr? The person who dies for their “cause,” which isn’t only apparent in Islamic beliefs but many others…

If I die for the cause of preserving the lives of others, by jumping on a live grenade for instance, I would think, and I think you would agree with me (especially if you were standing right next to me), that I was doing a most excellent deed. I would have been a martyr for the belief that your life was worth living, and would have lost all the other paths available to me (in fact choosing to do anything always removes other “paths” from me), and these facts about my action would not be prove that I acted improperly but rather do the contrary–certify that my action was very brave/noble/heroic indeed. Have a little imagination when trying to practice moral philosophy!

9)causing someone to believe that if they die for their cause they would surely be rewarded(?) is completely unrealistic and allows for those liberties to be taken and imposed on other human beings

Talk to Kant about this point “http://www.philosophyofreligion.info/theistic-proofs/the-moral-argument/the-kantian-moral-argument/”. I am not advocating this argument, but rather showing you that the truth of your assertion requires proof. The second half of this statement is a quality that every truth has.

10)as an argument leads to both parties upset and ultimately no knowledge can be attained

This requires proof. When I am doing something obnoxious and somebody calls me out on it, usually both parties are upset, but I still gain knowledge.

11) speculation also ultimately attains nothing, except to satisfy ones own ego

False. Tesla speculated on the nature of electricity and came up with electric current. Von Neumann thought about how to suffeciently compress plutonium so as to cause a nuclear explosion and developed the so-called “trinity device”. Hammurabi speculated on the nature of justice, and developed lex talonis. I could go on and on and on…

12) why do you feel responsible for “plant[ing] the seed” in others minds as a means of self improvement?

It’s called caring about other people because you want them to be better people, and the world a better place. Why are you trying to admonish ” a mom” here?

Beautifully put and, truthfully, one of the most compelling posts I’ve ever read in a comment forum. My most humble gratitude.

NOT ME NEVER HAD THIS KIND OF PROBLEMS WITH MY KIDS. AND DOES THE BIBLE HAVE TO DO WITH WHAT HAPPEN HERE.

A mom show her how to be a decent human being…..

Ok having sex as 14 is not a good idea, but why does it make her a less then decent human being? Teach your daughters to respect their bodies, but the last thing you need to teach them is that having sex even at a young ages makes them less then decent, especially when sex is a basic human drive.

So is pooping, but a 14 year old should know better than to do it on your front porch. What’s your point?

Rob, I can’t even tell you how glad I am that there is a real man on here who isn’t placing the blame solely on this little girl’s shoulders.

Anyone who could A) watch a 14 year old child having intercourse and then, B) think that she “knew what she was doing” or “wanted it like that” is just as sick as any pedophile who believes that a child is capable of having an adult, reciprocal relationship with them. Honestly people, think about what you’re saying!

His parents aren’t the ones out there blaming everyone except their child and themselves. The Father of this girl is pointing the finger everywhere except at himself and his daughter.
Don’t get me wrong, this boy is equally to blame for what took place and it was VERY poor judgement to post this online. But again, his parents didn’t contact the media to blame the girls parents. Instead of going to the media this man needed to take a good hard look at his family and take action to help his daughter. Instead he’s chosen to give her the impression that she did nothing wrong and it’s everyone elses fault. BOTH children should be held accountable for their actions.

“A MOM”
If you’re saying that the girl didn’t know what she was doing because she’s 14 years old…then the same could be said for all of the CHILDREN involved in this. You can’t have it both ways. Either she is responsible for her actions and the choices she made or she isn’t because she’s a child. But then all of the kids in this incident have the same “excuse.”
Children are impulsive by nature; they don’t have the brain developement nor life experience. But again, that “excuse” could be use for all of these children; from the girl to the boy and all of their peers who viewed this video.
If someone is going to be held accountable, then they should all be held accountable.

Heather, I wish I could say you have a good point, but you don’t. Your response seems to be an emotional jump, but not a logical one. Sorry. You didn’t prove any particular point. See, there are two obvious crimes here, and if she was oblivious to the camera, she didn’t commit either of them. Someone recorded a minor (or two minors) having sex and someone distributed the child pornography. Which is why I am more interested in holding those who committed the crime accountable for the CRIME. She is guilty of poor judgment, but not a felony. He (whethere we like it or not) will be quietly patted on the back and hailed as a wee stud. She will be labeled (read on and just see it happen before your eyes) a slu+ unless and until real adults who can help her learn to make appropriate adult decisions step up and do so.

Now, I didn’t see the video (thank God), but I can only assume the person holding the camera didn’t plaster his/her face all over that video…no, just her’s, so– you know, she might have more to lose. But you go ahead, Heather…while you’re at it, why don’t you start calling out the 13 and 14 year old boys who were being taken advantage of by the kid in AA County. By your logic, they knew what they were doing, right?

“A MOM”
The one making an “emotional jump” is you. Just look through all of your posts. I am simply stating a fact. If she is guilty of “poor judgment” because she’s a child, then why does the same not hold true for the others involved? And yes, if you want to nit pick, I’m going to guess she is guilty of a crime. I’m guessing, the city of Baltimore has some sort of a law against sex acts in public. Again, that is just a guess. But I bet I’m right.
However, my point is not to point fingers. My point is simply this, all parties involved are responsible for the outcome of this situation. And all should be held accountable.
As for, “Heather…while you’re at it, why don’t you start calling out the 13 and 14 year old boys who were being taken advantage of by the kid in AA County. By your logic, they knew what they were doing, right?” I won’t even respond to such an ignorant comment. Typically one resorts to this type of statement when they don’t have a valid argument and lash out with nonsence.

If you didn’t want to spend to the most important part of her comment to you, you should have left it alone. Typically, people who have no good answer for a reasonable question, tend to shirk it off as unanswerable, or beneath them. At least that is how your comment pointing fingers at A Mom for pointing out that you were pointing fingers at the girl’s parents for pointing fingers at the boy who recorded and posted on the Internet, reads….. but, like you said, you’re not pointing fingers. LOL!

*respond, not “spend”

“HA HA”
Please re-read your first sentence and retype so it makes sense…I can’t read idiot speak. So until you’re able to have an intelligent conversation, don’t type. You only embarrass yourself.
At least “A MOM” has a brain and is able to have a decent debate about opposing opinions.

Heather, you’re so funny, pretending not to see that I caught the typo too late! Perhaps if you read the next post you wouldn’t look like a doofus, either! Typically, people who have nothing else to offer in an argument resort to calling their adversary out on typos and grammatical errors. LOL!!!!! Anything else, genius?

“HA HA”
I wasn’t able to respond to you because your post made no sense. Your fix of your grammer was done AFTER I responded to you. I cannot respond if I cannot read what you wrote.
And since you have trouble with reading comprehension, I will say it again…I believe all parties involved in this are equally guilty. I believe no one person is any more responsible than the other. All parties made poor choices.
I’m confused as to your comment, “Typically, people who have nothing else to offer in an argument resort to calling their adversary out on typos and grammatical errors.” So far neither of your posts have not offered anything to debate about. Your posts are immature and laughable as you have added nothing of substance to the debate.

Do you just completely ignore things like time stamps on the posts? …and sweetie, I’m just responding to your inane and empty posts. It’s fun! Like watching a dog chase its tail. LOL. I got your point, I just disagree. Sorry you find that offensive. But hey, Heather, you have been nothing if not amusing. Cheers, brainiac.

“HA HA”
I would imagine I was typing while you were correcting your spelling so that it was readable.
See again, nothing other than name calling. You’re acting like a child. I see trying to have a “debate” with you is pointless as you are unable to do so. Now we’re at your third post with nothing of substance. Not one time have you even said what your take is on this story or what your view is. You’re riding on the coat tails of “A MOM” but are not doing anything for her argument.
This was the most mind numbing conversation I’ve had in a long while.

Love your last comment, heather, just chocked full of relevant content. do you not get that I am baiting you and you keep answering me? now your intelligence is REALLY shining. LOL! want more?

I LIVES IN ALABAMA. SAW JUST A LITTLE OF THE TAPE. AND I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT SHE WAS NOT BULLIED INTO DOING THIS. I HAVE COUSINS AND FRIEND OF OTHER CHILDREN DOING THING LIKE THIS IN SCHOOL. THIS IS WHAT THEY ARE DOING IN SCHOOL THESE DAYS. THEY HAVE BEEN DOING THIS. NOTHING NEW.

I agree!!! she is just a child… you never know what someone said to her to make her do that! I had a guy tell me when i was 15 that if i didnt sleep with him he was going to burn my house down, but i told on him… if people stop talking about it and get it off the new she could start to regain some kind of life..

Kizzy, your logic didn’t help at all.
JQP, yes, I believe that she is capable of gauging the consequences of her actions. Why? Because she’s 14, not 4. She knows right from wrong.

The Riley, are you saying you would have no problem allowing children at the age of 14 to marry men your age? Do you have a 14 year old daughter? I think you might feel a little differently if you had to listen to the thought process of a 14 year old girl… You might cringe a little… and maybe change your mind about what they are capable of grasping.

We don’t let them drive, or drink or carry a loaded gun because they can not make decisions appropriately. You are way too smart (I’ve read most of your comments in other articles) to hang on to the theory that a 14 year old is as smart as you are out of a desire to avoid being wrong. Come on, TheRiley…admit it, you’re better at decision making than a 14 year old.

JQP .. most of the world does NOT think it is wrong for a young woman of 14 to marry a man who is already making a living. Indeed, it is the norm in arranged marriages to do exactly that. It is you and your country that is strange .. you Christians have the highest divorce rates.

@est1988, if you honestly care to know how a 14 year-old girl can be bullied into a sex act, perhaps you could visit a shelter for battered women or a sanctuary for sexually abused children. Just because you can’t relate to it, doesn’t mean it can’t happen (we don’t all share the same experiences, families, socio-economic backgrounds, etc.). I am not bashing your comment, I am merely pointing out an impoprtant flaw in your logic. If you and I stand on opposite sides of a mountain and we are asked to describe the mountain, you will not know what my side looks like, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

…and you know this, how, Devin?

Because Devin lives in the real world , unlike a mom,your mom is watching and the rest of you who useful idiots.

Wow, you have a lot of facts not in evidence, here. Where does it identify all three participants’ ages, including the camera person? …and what if the girl had been, say, 10 years old? how would you feel about a 16 year old boy, for instance, recording a willing 10 year old (if there can be such a thing) engaged in this activity. Do we know for sure that the boy involved knew that the camera was there? I mean, the only thing we know for sure is that she is under age and someone recorded her having intercourse and distributing it on the Internet. A CRIME.

@Becky knows too much.
You are right it doesn’t identify ages, but we do know that all involved were children because the posting states they were all children. Also the comparasion you stated involving a 16 year old and a 10 year old is silly, way out in left field and is in no way comparable to this situation. Nice try though. Everyone involved is in high school, they are peers. The mentality of a 10 year and a 14 yr old is totally different. Elementary and High School are worlds apart. Yes what happened to her is wrong, I never said it wasn’t, however she shouldn’t be painted a total victim. She must take some responsibility. Whether you or anyone on here wants to acknowledge it or not, this couldn’t have been this young lady’s first time having sex. Only a person with a severe learning ability would have sex the first time at school around a bunch of people and allow them to watch. No where does it state this young lady was learning disabled. She may have been naive in regards to the “consequences” of her actions, but she wasn’t naive about what she was doing. Otherwise she wouldn’t have went to an area of the school that wasn’t policed by teachers and other administrators. I also never said the person that video taped shouldn’t be punished, just not to the severity that most commentors are suggesting. Use common sense, every single situation isn’t black and white. Most kids (people) carry camera phones and we all know that if something happens that’s shocking it will be taped by someone if possible. To give her the benefit of the doubt and say she didn’t know the consequences is unfair if you don’t give everyone involved that same benefit. This wasn’t a case of her having sex on school property and thinking it was just her and the guy and she was secretly video taped. This was her having sex on school property in front of a lot of other kids and not caring, only to find out it was a larger audience than she intended it to be. If he, a child, should be charged with child pornography; then she, a child, should be charged with child abuse and contributing to the delinquency of a child since she had sex in front of other children. My point is that they are all children and to tell one it’s ok you didn’t know what you were you doing and not extend that courtesy to the rest is unfair.

Becky, I’ll try and make this as easy and simple as I can, because you’re babbling and I don’t have the energy to read the same message written in 18 different ways: What she did was dumb. What the boy with her did was dumb. What the person holding the camera and distributing the contents thereof did was ILLEGAL… as in “against the law”. Dumb…..ILLEGAL…..grounded (and publicly humiliated by something that could follow her for the rest of her life)…..ARRESTED (and publicly humiliated by something that could follow him for the rest of his life)…Even Steven, just like you wanted it.

@oh for heavens sake
You don’t get it, which is why I wrote it several ways. Now I will put it in caps for you: THEY WERE ALL CHILDREN! WHAT SHE DID WAS ILLEGAL ALSO! IT IS ILLEGAL TO HAVE SEX IN FRONT OF MINORS! IF YOU ARE GOING TO CHARGE ANOTHER MINOR WITH CHILD PORNOGRAPHY THEN YOU SHOULD CHARGE HER FOR CONTRIBUTING TO THE DELINQUENCY OF A MINOR AND CHILD ABUSE. IF SHE IS BEING EXCUSED FOR HER ACTIONS BECAUSE SHE IS A CHILD, ALL OF THEM SHOULD BE EXCUSED! TO SAY “ONLY SHE” DESERVES SOME KIND OF COMPROMISE ON THE ISSUE BECAUSE SHE IS A GIRL WHO DOESN’T KNOW ANY BETTER IS SEXIST AND UNFAIR.

This attitude that young girls don’t know any better because they were tricked and can’t think for themselves and young boys should be punished no matter what is dangerous. Labeling a 14-16 yr old boy as a high-risk sex offender for the rest of his life because he taped a classmate that consented to having sex in front of him and several others is stupid. If you don’t want the world to see you having sex, then you shouldn’t pick a freaking audience to do it in front of in the first place. If you go outside and have sex in broad daylight in your front yard, yes your neighbors are going to see it. If you are naive enough to think one of your neighbors wouldn’t tape it and it won’t end up on the the net then that’s your dumb azz.

Ok beckarino, you win….zzzzzzzzz…….

I’M WITH YOU!

Why not? Isn’t she going to be followed by this mistake for the rest of her life? Becky, let’s face facts, here kiddo, you must be related to the pornographer. I’ve never seen someone stand up for someone who did something so malicious with such tenacity.

Yay for Lisa!!! You must be so proud of yourself for having such a strong personality.

You know why little girls don’t tell when they’re being “harassed” or abused or raped? Because of people just like you. Go ahead, read your post. I wouldn’t tell you my middle name, much less that I was being hurt by someone.

Your statement “In my opinion” says it all. Just as your are entitled to your opinion, so is everyone else.. but what is astounding to me is that so many assume the father did nothing to his daughter, that he wants to make money on a law suit and that this girl deserved (or asked for) this. It is just fine that you think he went about it wrong by contacting the media. I however, think there could be a chance that this guy is a decent person and is contacting the media (out of anger/wanting punishment, sure) but also b/c he wishes to shine the light on this topic-so that it doesn’t reoccur. Just b/c the story didn’t print that, doesn’t meant it wasn’t a motive.
As far as assuming that boys are not pressured.. where did I assume that? I am a social worker and know far too well boys are peer pressured.. Just b/c I didn’t point that out in my comment doesn’t mean that I “assume” the boys weren’t. Just b/c I didn’t say it… doesn’t mean I assumed the boy(s) were the perpetrators. I just happen to think the backlash against the father and talk of how he must be a horrible father is judgmental and unfair. I also happen to know (in my kid’s middle school-and even when I was in school) that boys who ‘get some’ are not viewed as negatively as the girls who “give it up”.
We’re not the parent of this child. We cannot say our child would “know better” b/c as any honest parent of a teenager would admit–they’ve all done something we would’ve thought they would never do.. Maybe not to this extreme, but reality is what it is. I talk to my kids often about this type of thing. I preach about this stuff. Does that mean that I think 100% that when I turn my back, my kids aren’t doing “wrong”. Of course not. They’re teens. I KNOW they’re doing wrong. I just haven’t caught them yet.

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This man may be a wondeful Father, who knows I have no idea what kind of parent he is. He may be a wonderful Father. However, from this article, he is portraying his daughter as a victim and pointing the finger at everyone else. If he truley wanted to shed light on this issue it wouldn’t have been a blame game. Instead of doing that, he could have (and I am assuming he didn’t based on his comments in the article) taught his daughter a valuble lesson. Your pay the price for your actions. Please, don’t get me wrong, I’m in NO way justifying what this boy did. He was wrong! There are no if’s and’s or but’s about that point. And he too should be held accountable for his actions and the choices he made.

AGAIN! Come On Becky! We didn’t hear you the first 42 times you said exactly the same thing!!!!!! SAY IT AGAIN AND USE ALL CAPS!!!! geesh

Why call the police? They can’t do anything about internet videos.

Oh now you’re just being obtuse. Of course they can: they can contact the webhosts and expedite the removal of the offensive material.

My teenage son brought it to my attention after seeing it on Facebook. He was appauled and neither of us watched more than a few seconds of the video. We tried to find out where it came from, but weren’t able to do so. Calling the police where I live would have done nothing more than caused me to get a lecture from the officer.

ew… TMI

Thanks Dan,
I thought I was the only one with sense here. Everyone involved was immature and stupid and I can’t believe most of the commentors are advocating for a child to be labelled a high risk sex offender for life. It would be hard for him to get a job, let alone one that could provide any real income and not to mention being harassed for the rest of his life. Anytime anything happened someone would be at his door checking him out first and the real perpetrator could be out harming someone else’s child. Just like these kids didn’t think of the consequences of their actions these adults aren’t thinking right now.

…or the consequences of, say, telling people on line about your pornography use when you have already used your real name (Becky Boo using exactly the same verbiage to express exactly the same opinion as Becky Gray a bit of a coincidence). If I ever meet Becky Grey, I’ll know way too much about her masturb8ion habits. Yuck, Becky.